The above can be applied to how I write. In almost all cases, my articles are inspired from real life experiences. And it is me, putting myself in positions many men would not dare do that results in collecting these thoughts, massaging these ideas and leaving a generously ample supply of dating jargon for this 'beloved' city.
By positioning myself I mean, experiencing negative feelings and having as many losses as I rack up victories.
A wise man once said, a losing battle is a victory, but a victorious one is a tragedy. I've always believed in it, yet have never experienced it first hand until I decided to put together this little blog. Until then, I never lost on purpose. Now, it is my strong opinion that one can rarely learn from their successes. But completely master the lessons a loss can teach. All a victory would do is make me repeat the exact same thing over and over again until it felt fake, unreal and ultimately lead to a loss. That, however, was a huge wake up call. It was as if, instantly, without even taking the time to lick my wounds or dust myself off, I started to plan my newest strategy.
So, as my time here is slowly coming to an end, I take with me some significant victories but most importantly many life changing LOSSES. And since I'll always be the nice kind of asshole, I decided to share them with you:
Lesson #1 : FOLLOW THE PUSSY - do not be cocky about this. The best strategy is always the easiest terrain. The more girls you have around, the better everything is. This applies, to shops, bars, beaches, clubs, other venues, cities, countries and continents. Is someone getting laid in Kabul right now? Probably, but if that isn't you, than go someplace where your chances are maximized.
Lesson #2: NEVER SPEND YOUR LIFE SITTING AT A DESK - Life's beautiful? Sure, but only if you have your days to enjoy it. If you get tied down to a 30 min lunch and a 9-5 schedule for most of it, guess what...you just missed it, while the dude with lots of time on his hand is living the life you want, going to the places you like and banging the chicks you dream of.
Lesson #3: DO NOT SPEND TIME ON YOUR 'ENEMIES' - With the right attitude and mindset, you should have a very thin list of enemies to begin with. Nevertheless, what is one to do about a hater...forgive and forget. The life you want and crave, your circle of DRIVE will not intersect with theirs. Make sure it doesn't.
Lesson #4: ENGAGE NEW IDEAS - Ideas built the world. One idea is worth a million insignificant random sentences. Be open minded and engage them. As hard as it is to accept new notions (humans are hard wired to resist to change) most of them will only improve your life.
Lesson #4: USE THE PAST ONLY AS HISTORICAL REFERENCE - While humans are hardwired to resist change, we are also very nostalgic of the past. If you notice, a lot of the time our conversations rely on retelling historic events from our lives often times wondering if the past was indeed a better, simpler time. THIS IS BULLSHIT. Things only get better in progression. In no other time have we had the social wiring we now possess and turned it into a skill, the possibility to travel at all corners of the world for relatively cheap prices and the amazing opportunities of becoming masters of our own destinies.
Lesson #5: LOOKS MATTER ANYWHERE YOU GO - To any Beta male stumbling upon this (I doubt it but there's always a few), stop falling pray of ROM/COMs and believing that the hot protagonist will fall for you at the end after repeatedly getting screwed by the dashing good looks of her part time lover. This almost never happens. Always maintain your looks in the best possible way. I do not promote overdoing it by plastic surgery but whatever you do, stay away from the Alan Harper Collection.
Lesson #6: IF YOU DO NOT FEEL LIKE GOING OUT, DON'T - I cannot recount the number of times I've ended up having a shitty time simply because I got dragged by others and went out for the sole purpose of going out instead of actually feeling up for it.
Lesson #7: DON'T DRINK TO FEEL BETTER - The old saying goes, don't drink to feel better, drink to feel EVEN better. In other words, if you are dependent on your bottle of scotch to get in a good mood, you should change other areas of your life that are stressing you out.
Lesson #8: DON'T TALK TO WOMEN YOU DON'T LIKE - If there is one little part of you that is indecisive about her looks or personality, avoid at all costs. All you will end up doing is waste time, money and your patience trying to convince yourself that you must fuck her even though your heart's not into it.
Lesson #9: NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF MONEY - No matter what stumbling blocks life throws your way it is always easier to be depressed whilst cushioned between the safeguard of green banknotes instead of the up and down shades of grey oozing from a shitty dry spell.
Lesson #10: STAY AWAY FROM EXCLUSIVE CLIQUES - you can only grow in most areas of your life while continuously experiencing a variety of interactions with an ample supply of diverse personalities. CLIQUES destroy creativity, look down upon free thinking and make any attempts at networking important connections impotent.
Lesson #11: DO NOT LIE TO YOURSELF - Staying positive is just like any other prescription medication, sooner or later it wears off. In most cases it is always advisable to be true at least with yourself and recognize reality for what it is. A healthy life is that in which the many elements inside your circle of DRIVE are recognized, accepted, analyzed and than dealt with accordingly.
Lesson #12: NEVER STOP PLANNING YOUR NEXT MOVE - Planning maps out important parts of your life, sets out goals, important deadlines and prompts you into skyhigh achievements.
Lesson #13: ALWAYS REMEMBER THE PYRAMID - As things are not bound to change anytime soon, observe the ranking you fall when you meet girls. The higher in the PYRAMID your initial interaction occurs, the easier it will be to pull
Lesson #14: If you have money, invest in discount packages for mediocre looking women elsewhere that are DTF to come here and fuck studs.
Alas my friends, my time here is coming to an end. I am moving to a place where I have a better ROI. I will continue blogging in the city where I will move and make comparisons. I'll be moving with my wingman who has greatly contributed to these articles and without his help and insight, this would have not been possible. We will continue to write with the same analytical approach. I will introduce the new city once I am there.