Nature vs. Nurture can be argued in virtually all success stories. On the one hand, nurture is a significant factor in defining any achievement. Someone born in the First World and raised appropriately with two parents in fortunate circumstances will be given way more opportunities and has a far greater chance of success than an ill-fated third-world byproduct of poverty and poor family planning. Nevertheless, roughly 80% of accomplishments and actions one undertakes are directly related to genetics. This correlation exists in virtually all fields. As concrete examples, however, let us dabble into easily seen instances: someone measuring 6'7 above ground will have a 300% higher chance of becoming a basketball player than someone who stands at 5'10. A symmetrically good looking person, has a much better shot at working in modelling, acting or other entertainment realms than someone who does not exhibit photogenic traits. Regardless, in the end, all we are left with to critically examine so as to bring out the essential elements is DRIVE.
DRIVE is loosely defined by how relentlessly we exert inescapable pressure to force something we desire. How badly does someone born with an extremely tall gene (Nature) wants to be an NBA all-star? What is the character of Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting prepared to go through to be the next Einstein?
Consequently, one's drive for women is also genetic. Inherently different in all men, it can be largely stereotyped by extremes of black and white with a huge shade of gray encompassing a middle majority. Nonetheless, throughout this spectrum, men experiencing different variations of DRIVE will have a common initial reaction. At busy night venues in the fun districts of Vegas, NYC or LA, beautiful women float around like fish in an undiscovered pond. An eclectic mix of professionals and celebrities, mingle through the latest sounds of dirty house beats and overpriced watered-down Vodka drinks. All heterosexual males heedless of marketability status to women (i.e. BETA, White Knight, Alpha, men relatively new to Venusian Arts, those who have not traveled or those who have been around the world) are overcome by feelings of desire when gazing at these women. This is completely normal and natural. The difference, of course, lies on the levels of their DRIVE. As the rest of this article will demonstrate, the contrast between their DRIVE as measured by how much one is willing to put up with or go through to actually achieve it, will be vastly different.
In order to further illustrate this point, a description of a typical 'hot girl' scenario, recurrent in all night venues is suitable where the THREE most common reactions experienced by men are noticeably observed.
There are THREE different reactions associated with the above scenario resulting in THREE immensely different 'types' of guys. For the sole purposes of this article they shall be dubbed as Guy #1, Guy #2 and Guy #3
After witnessing the above scenario, Guy #1 will respond with something along the lines of "damn...she is hot, I wanna fuck her." However, he will bottle up that feeling and go on with the rest of his life given that his main focus is somewhere else. His DRIVE, while presently existent in every core of his body is severely dominated by different elements. This guy might have a passion for surfing. He gets with women but surfing comes first. He might even be in a monogomous relationship with a girl simply because he wants to maintain that part of his life as routine and orderly in order to continue his surfing career. Hanging around as many Guy #1's as possible can only improve one's life as most of them help bring about positive results in many areas. The DRIVE they dedicate to their craft is not only inspirational but also filled with positive nuances of well balanced energy.
Guy #2 glances at that exact same scene in the club. Initially he will unsurprisingly think, "god damn, she is hot." Immediately, he will then hide himself and go through his entire life ignoring any feeling that might arise those exact same desires. The troubles this 'type' undergoes to not expose himself to anything remotely resembling "Big Tit Blonde" equals only his desperate attempts in search of the antidote. Engaging in sexual intercourse with his mediocre girlfriend, putting up with a lot of bullshit, staying in a mundane and boring relationship while having the once in a while satisfaction of drinking beer with his buddies, fantasizing about pouring bbq sauce all over the waitresses tits, a site he will need in order to perform in bed with his girlfriend/wife, sums up his life in and out of the bedroom. Guy #2's delayed reaction is FEAR of the unknown and any negative feelings associated with it. The thoughts of her being a Gold-digger, connected to wiseguys, slut (as if the girl he will end up with hasn't blown 20 guys in College including his best friend and 2 monks from the local monastery) are but a few of the 37 illusions that pollute his mind. Guy #2, realizing that achieving something like her will be an insurmountable not to say impossible task, gives up even dreaming of possessing women of that calibre altogether. The whole idea simply scares him and he will say anything negative to convince himself and others that the mediocre looking dude with the glasses is really unhappy inside and that his own Beta male fuckup life is the epicenter of happiness.
Now there exists a third guy that will have a different reaction to the above scenario from the previous two 'types'. He belongs to a minority of men that exist in any society regardless of race/culture/population size etc. As Guy #3 looks at the scenario, his heartbeat is elevated. He is overcome with feelings of desire, want, must-have and whether he realizes it or not, he will never be happy unless he is in the companionship of "Big Tit Blonde" and hundreds of girls like her. This guy, has a very high DRIVE. His, is very different than sex drive. It is a drive to hunt and fuck these women. Sex DRIVE is fucking the same women five or six times, falling asleep, waking up and repeating the same act nine more times. Men who exhibit such traits are most likely premature ejaculators, which is not a great ailment to embody. Guy #3, on the other hand, will entertain the companionship of "Big Tit Blonde" for the evening and perhaps the night, wake up, take a walk around the neighbourhood and fantasize about gaining the companionship of the new Barista at Starbucks...simply put, he is planning his next move. The idea of possessing these women, chasing them, sleeping with them will never leave his mind. He can lie to himself as much as the Beta male, but he is genetically different. He can end up marrying, but he will most likely end up cheating, divorced, living a double life or brutally unhappy. Unless he realizes that this is who he is and accept the fact that his DRIVE for women is different that someone else's, he will never be content.
I said, "Ok, well, why don't you get up, walk over there and talk to her..." (this was a different time in Toronto, it has be spiraling down the last 4-5 years). I simply did not understand how they could say something so profoundly sexual and than leave it at that. So, naively, I would persist "Dont you wanna fuck her, dont you wanna fuck her friend? Dont you wanna fuck the waitress? I wanna fuck all 3 of them and I will not be able to sleep at night unless I know I tried, because I know, I will go out to a similar venue and have the exact same feelings and never be rid of them unless I brainwash myself by joining a crazy religious cult."
For years, I could not connect the dots and just said "oh well, these guys are pussies..". While that is partially true, it is also true that my DRIVE was far, far higher. To explain this let us use an athlete example. Everyone dreams at some point to be a pro-athlete, an NBA star, playing for Barcelona FC, winning Wimbledon, scoring a touchdown at the Super bowl but very few actually manage to even play at Varsity level and even fewer manage to go Pro, whereas a select minority get off the bench and make the headlines. The higher they succeed, the higher the drive they have and the stronger their passion for that sport. The successful football player, lives and breaths football. Does he get laid? It would be an understatement to say with very beautiful women. But his main concern is not banging some model. Football always comes first. He trains every day non-stop, programs his mind, so that he is successful at playing the game. Usually, the bench-warmers are often the womanizers of the team just because their drive is for "something else" while also been blessed with the physical attributes to actually make it to the bench.
Men have different drives. Some men are driven by money. The drive these men experience for $$ is so meticulously powerful that they are in constant maneuvers finding quick money making schemes, business ideas and models, hard core networking, salesmanship etc. Sure everyone wants to be rich, but the guy that gets there (assuming his dead uncle did not leave him a substantial fortune) is the guy with the highest drive for Capital. These are men that wake up to a big large sign over their bed that says "Are you a millionaire yet?" (yes, there's actually people that put up such motivational signs).
Some guys, have a drive for working out and continually confusing their muscles, finding different ways to challenge their bodies. These are guys with superstrict workout routines always thinking about their next meal.
Yet others are driven by a thirst for knowledge. Challenging the laws of physics, math etc.
This of course is not black and white. Just because you do not fall into any of these categories does not mean you do not have a drive. The guy who wins the Nobel Prize in Mathematics for coming up with a ground breaking formula has a very high drive for the last category, but a Phd. Professor teaching Advanced Logarithmic Statistical Theory at Guelph also has that drive, just not at the levels of the Nobel Prize winning Laureate. There's a correlation between the drive you embody and the success you have or will achieve.
Lastly, there are guys who for some reason have very low testosterone levels, equating in low drive (see def: men that simply slide through life, taking as few risks as possible). They are willing to put up with a monotonous, intellectually inferior, but safe government job, involving the exact same repetitive tasks their whole life. Men that dream of having ONE mediocre girl they can later call wife. Men that continue to lie to themselves. These men fall into the Guy #2 group. Limiting your time with the aforementioned group can only result in excellent social politicking although cutting them off completely would be unsavvy. It is always interesting to know what the "other side" is like every once in a while. However, time spent with such men should be confined since they have a pessimistic attitude and a tendency to abuse any goals or ideas with skepticism. One should never try to "convert" them!
For anyone that fits into the Guy #3 category, take note. You should not consider yourself cursed or unlucky because one woman will not be able to satisfy you or because you cannot lie to yourself like the second guy. You should consider yourself lucky. YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT. The rest is up to you. You know that the only way you will have a positive level of happiness is if you bang the "Big Tit Blonde" girl and many like her, continuing for more opportunities with others.
Like I have argued numerous times, Guy #3's exist in every community. Those who find themselves in a society that bathes in morals of sexual liberalism, involves favorable ratios of males to females and more importantly is blessed with a copious amount of "Big Tit Blonde" girls playing with "mediocre guy", are lucky and are able to satisfy their thirst and maintain a DRIVE-BALANCE. With tons of "Big Tit Blonde" girls around, Guy #3 is involved with one or two, looking forward to meeting another on the weekend whilst currently developing himself financially, physically, mentally in order to achieve his full potential.
Unfortunately, if Guy #3 happens to be in a society that is deemed unsuitable for men, even by Guy #1 and #2 groups than Guy #3 is looking at a terrible scenario. How can he satisfy his drive when "Big Tit Blondes" are a rarity? Moreover, how can he gain the companionship of "Big Tit Blondes" (the very few that are available) when no access is granted due to unsuitable terrain, cliquey culture, over-evaluated sense of self. In this society Guy #2 WINS. He has a very low drive to begin with and sooner or later will stumble across that monotonous job and 'princess' syndrome prone girl he can bathe with flowers and gifts at the same time being extremely happy seeing Guy #3 continue to fail.
Toronto is a hellwhole for Guy #3, heaven for Guy #2 and mediocre for Guy #1.
As time passes by, Guy #1 will most likely convert to Guy #2, however most of his drive will shift towards family and other activities. Toronto is infested with Guy #2s that satiate a woman's social craving with the opposite sex at a worrisome rate. This troublesome invasion of low testosterone males results in utter failure for Guy #3s plight as his chance at producing results and thus balancing his drive gets even smaller.
Take a good look at yourself, think of past experiences and current ones. If you are closer to Guy #3s end of the spectrum than this is definitely not a town for you and unless things change in the coming years, which i doubt they will, your best option is LEAVING. Any material will tell you that part of game, besides the 3-4 times a week outings, routine openers, dresscodes, sexual escalation etc...is leaving your current location for a geographic area that is suitable to run GAME. On a positive note, after years of being Guy #3 in a city like Toronto, you will CLEAN UP in another town (eg. NYC, LA).