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Toronto Women in their 20's

12/30/2011

Perhaps the most significant group of attractive sought after women in the city of Toronto is that of girls in their 20's. Nowhere is this group so genuinly disinterested in other people or objects in general than in the down town core of this city. A neutral observer, seating by a cafe in the summertime or the inside of a bar with a view in the winter, can gaze as these females walk around aimlessly looking at the ground or the sky. The sky in Toronto is always the same. There are long periods of blue in the summer and than you don't see the sun for a few months in the winter. The pavement, is even duller. There are no cobblestone streets or world reknown architectural pathways: It's simply grey boring concrete that is cracking up at every corner, often times covered in gum spots or garbage. While observing these women, you will find that the attention they give to these two focal points equals only their struggle to avoid any acknowledgement or eye-contact (god forbid smile) at ANYONE passing nearby. This is not to say, that they avoid goodlooking males passing by due to feeling shy or insecure or because they are playing hard to get. THEY AVOID ANYONE!!!!!!!

On closer observation, it seems that they are not interested to even peak at store windows and take a look at a great deal or a cool coffee maker with a futuristic design by a trendy, posh, espresso mom&pop shop. For anyone that is familiar with Dale Carnegie's classic, How to Make Friends and Influence People, you would know than in order to be socially acceptable in circles you have to be genuinely interested. And herein lies the most observant flaw of the behavior of these females. THEY ARE NOT GENUINELY INTERESTED IN ANYTHING.

Nothing spontaneous can deter them from the path they have set for themselves. If one got up in the morning, locked the door behind her, sprinted towards the grocery store to purchase milk, headphones on, shades (regardless of sun) hiding the non-makeup facade that seems to be falling into oblivion, was confronted with a spontaneous greeting, a fire truck alarm or a homeless person looking lifeless, SHE would not even peripherally glance at the "awkward" details of the "foreign" and "strange" streets.

This is not to say that MEN are saints and constantly on the lookout to HELP someone. This is not a nation of Mother Teresa's. After all, that is why we pay taxes, so that our government can take care of the fringes.

However, the difference is, that MEN are TRYING to CONNECT. Everywhere you see them looking, stretching their eye-balls, TRYING to make something. MAKE SOMETHING, OUT OF NOTHING. Some of them have gotten so good that they have developed a perfect sixth sense and can immediately feel when an attractive girl is around even if not directly in front of them. Such an instinct is comparable to the scent that inmates have in third world prisons about food!

The same does not occur anywhere else. I am reminded by the conversation of two Brazilian women not too long ago at an event. After introductions one of them started complaining "why do Toronto guys not hold eye contact with me. I have been here for 3 weeks and it seems they always look up or down. What is in the sky?" she screamed laughingly. The answer: NOTHING. There is nothing in the sky that can be more appealing to what's in front of you. But most men have been so used to a non-eye contact culture that when they eventually meet a woman from a sexually liberating culture that can hold their gaze, are inevitably surprised. LOST. Consequently, it follows, women in their 20's have severely contributed to frosting up an already icy cold culture.

For anyone that has not experienced eye-contact hook-up in a warmer culture, or worse still, for anyone without a passport, that has not bothered because they constantly listen to media proclaiming T-DOT the best city on earth: GET OUT, VISIT other places. The WORLD IS BEAUTIFUL. YOU ARE MISSING OUT. You can have beautiful relationships and amazing adventurous. Do the spontaneous thing. Do not sell yourself short. GET UP AND GO.

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Happy Holidays

12/24/2011

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If you are going to read anything this holiday season, make sure you have the basics covered first. I think the list of 100 Books every man must read will come in handy.

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The Confessions of a Dangerous PLAYETTE

12/23/2011

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She's a man eater, make you work hard
Make you spend hard
Make you want all, all of her love
She's a man eater
Make you buy cars
Make you cut cords
Wish you never ever met her at all

Nelly Furtado certainly knew what she was doing when she put a voice to those lyrics a couple of years back. A WOMAN PLAYER or THE PLAYETTE is no longer a rarity in her sex. Since the sexual revolution in the 60's and the second wave of the full emancipation of women in the workforce in the 70's a more secure, independent, savy and sexually liberated woman emerged. She no longer contorted to society's "traditional" view on interacting with the opposite sex. After discovering her sexuality, she knew how and when to please herself. The more extreme version of this is the PLAYETTE: a woman player. She does everything a man who is good with women does, to the extreme. This woman is a sexual animal, in every sense of the word.

She is a necessary existence of part of the species. However, in Toronto she takes the form of the SERIAL DATER. Given the disequilibrium that exists in the dichotomy between the sexes, it is no surprise that any stereotype anywhere else is purposefully contorted to take a new dimension. The Toronto version of the PLAYETTE is the SERIAL DATER or the BIG TEASE when referring to "conventional" dating methods. These are women that, while holding out for the one that got away or an imaginary prince charming, want and have a big appetite for MEN. In order to satisfy this appetite, they crave "interaction" with MEN. Due to the lack of terrain, logistics, a clear "judgement-free happening scene," they are stuck playing against their emotions. They want to be naughty, but at the same time play it safe. They want to let themselves go, but must hold tight, close up, be "a lady"!

This then, explains the growing number of PLAYETTES (Toronto Version) in the city. Their attitude often times takes a dysfunctional turn, forming a reality that for all practical purposes exists only to them. They think they are "exploring", "adventurous" human beings in the realm of finding out their true selves. However, to most men, serial daters become devilish creatures who play with their wallet, time, patience and sometimes feelings. The reverse is not true. A male player wants to have sex. His ultimate goal, closing, is that of entering the female body, with her acceptance, and ejaculating inside or out depending on mood. He does not waste anyone's time, patience and most importantly exhaust someones wallet.

The Toronto PLAYETTE is not nearly as adventurous or BOLD to go after what she wants, satisfying her ultimate desire....CLIMAXING! Even if she thinks she is playing the game and satisfying her social appetite by getting 50 texts an hour from these men, in the end, her REAL desire is not fulfilled. No modern technological device or eloquent mode of conversation can compete with the sexual fantasies the PLAYETTE craves and wants to explore. Her ultimate goal, of fucking these men is moving further away. Her fantasies becoming more and more intense. Her self love more prevalent. And she is fine with it. She will not stop dating and "meeting new people". She will not stop teasing. She will not stop caring of what others might think. The only real consequence of this debacle is the time, money and self esteem of the men unfortunate enough to go after them!

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a CLOWN to impress you...[TORONTO: WORSE place to meet women at bars]

12/22/2011

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More often than not, as soon as I enter a place where there is a social tendency to mix with members of the opposite sex in a flirtatious level, I have gotten that feeling lately that you only have when you enter a cold corporate office with an HR manager seating in front of you, a cold frown half smile on her face, asking you short questions and expecting to be impressed. This in a nutshell describes the attitude I am getting from women in these settings. I do not like to enter into debates about seduction and how a woman's guard is up in alcohol mixed places etc. Those are all half-trueths that will or will not work for you depending on setting/night/moodswings/event...HOWEVER, I find it a waste of TIME/PATIENCE/ENERGY and quite frankly loss of IQ to approach and qualify/disqualify in any of the night settings anymore.

The Idea of being a "CLOWN" for the night, entertaining your "target", short-selling yourself, trying to demonstrate high value simply will not work en masse and individually at most settings in the city. Personally, I am against any of that. The simple reason being that if two people are flirting with each other, it should come from both sides. That is to say, the guy and the girl should be genuinly interested to get to know each other. If one really tries and the other does not, than even a normal attempt by the former will come off as desperate and fake to the latter! I see guys in all venues in the city desperately trying to hit on anything with little, if any, result and more often than not getting responses from someone much lower in the LOOK BAROMETER. Comparing this to a similar setting in most other North American towns (let alone anywhere else) would make for some comic relief.

Consider this: Imagine you are at a setting with dim lighting, some alcohol at a nearby bar, contemporary music and dress-to-impress people all around you. You are chatting with you male friends and suddenly a girl approaches. Imagine the confidence this woman has to break up that conversation between the four of you, tap you on the shoulder, smile and say something like "hey, I noticed you while I was having a drink with my friends and I think you guys look like fun. I like your style too. Would love to know more about you." While this has happened in other urban centers, it would be hard to imagine it happens often in settings anywhere in Toronto.

To add more gasoline to the fire, imagine your response: "Hey, look we're kinda here only to spend time with ourselves...glare into each others eyes. We're not those kinda guys...that go out and talk to women we dont know." You'd probably get a "gay" or "asshole" response from her! Or even worse imagine saying "Whaaaaaat? omg...guys, you hearing this?..tsk tsk tsk..." [turning your back and completely ignoring the girl. As if she doesn't exist. As if she didn't just come up to the group and introduce herself. As if your own attention span is less than that of a mockingbird...as if...]. Now that is one major ASS!!!!!

Truth is, rarely will you see a group of guys in the city indulging in such a response. Even if the woman was nowhere near the radar of looks he goes for, he would at least fake conversation, invite over her friends, stay through the course of one drink and bounce to another part of that setting or a new venue altogether. ITS HARD TO IMAGINE THE REVERSE SCENARIO BEING TRUE!

Why are interactions in this city so different than anywhere else even in a setting that has been designed to induce and seduce?!

All the answers point to a common element: INFLATED ego/attitude of the average not-sexually-liberated Torontonian female. If you cannot even successfully introduce yourself with a drink in hand, dimmed lighting, amazing music and friends all around you, before a Nazi henchman takes her away and labels you a "creep", than there's no point in going further.

There really is no point in being that "CLOWN", qualifying, showing high or low value, even attempting. The game is lost before it even started because the referee has decided he likes the other team better!

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A society without EQUILIBRIUM: [Demand and Supply of MEN and WOMEN in TORONTO]

12/21/2011

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In mathematics (the most exact of sciences) even in its most abstract elements, you learn that for every defined positive, there is a negative force carrying the exact same weight. Positive 2, has negative 2. Positive Infinity, Negative Infinity. In nature, you constantly find phenomena cancelling each other out. In fact, there exists such a balance in the universe that without it, the most ingenious people in the planet believe we would cease to exist. That balance is an EQUILIBRIUM.

An EQUILIBRIUM is the UTOPIA of balanced competition. Imagine an ideal scenario. In every which way you can possibly imagine it, an equilibrium has to exist. The enumerating forces of good and evil have to balance out. The extremities cancelling, there is no room left for marginal error. Any indifference, inequality, inevitably becomes obsolete.

It should come as a big surprise then...NO...as a shock, that such an EQUILIBRIUM does not exist in the social dichotomy between the sexes in the city. TORONTO is home to major Canadian Universities. In all it boasts thousands of scientists and PHDs of all subjects. In fact, The Greater Toronto Area has some of the most qualified people in the country. Logical thinking tells us that nowhere else in the country can a more balanced relationship exist between the need for women to be sexually liberated and for men to be actively seeking their sexual mantra. Unfortunately, that LOGIC fails here!

Not only are women sexually conservative (as obscene as that is), in a society that prides itself in the most modern wave of choice-feminism and liberal values for all, but the male sex is made up of the largest collection of BETAS (see submissive introverted mantras) in the Western World. This than has created a disequilibrium in which women either date forever or stay in one relationship (often times dysfunctional or abusive to both partners) because they are scared of the dating world and meeting some "creep" or "stalker" or "stranger". [look to my previous posts for the ailment of the "fear" of the stranger in this city]

Extremes are generally not healthy and are widely unpopular in a world that is constantly going towards GLOBALIZATION, BIGGER, BETTER, TOP40's, TOGETHERNESS....a city of NICHES, CLIQUES, EXTREMES makes for extreme unhealthy unbalanced relationships.

The average woman in the city falls under two categories. She dates the guy she met in college/UNIVERSITY (often time coming with him from another town to explore career opportunities) and stays with him regardless of how that relationship is going. Even if she comes from a sexually liberated background [look: TWO hours drive from Toronto] she will start belonging in this conservative judgmental pretentious cultural wheel of misery and disatisfaction. Her only option is to leave her current relationship and explore new opportunities in a dating scene that is so vile and competitive by nature that even in her greatest attempt to be down to earth it will super inflate her EGO.

The second category is the single-know-it-all-dont-need-no-man EGO super-inflated woman who can be both attractive or unattractive. The big range in looks can be easily explained from a demand and supply point of view. Many have attested (and will continue to do so in the future) that the city has some real QUALITY in response to looks. Demand and Supply works the following way. There are two curves. They must intersect to form the Equilibrium, where Demand meets Supply. However, these curves represent the number of units, products, commodities OR people INVOLVED or PARTICIPATING in the MARKET. If you see someone and say..."hmm...that commodity is nice. I shall have it". But it is not on the MARKET. Than that is not part of the curve and it does not enter in our Equilibrium Formula.
Consequently, if you take into account the MARKET, you will find that women are in HIGH DEMAND as a commodity, while there seems to be a HUGE SUPPLY of men. If men are represented with GARLIC in our equation and women with DIAMONDS, than we can derive that the price of GARLIC will be very low and price of DIAMONDS will be very high.

In order to regulate the EQUILIBRIUM one must: stop the supply of GARLIC or increase that of DIAMONDS. Regardless, I think you see where I'm going with this....

So, the future looks bleak! The Egos will be more inflated, the demand for DIAMONDS will only increase...as a constant flow of workers in the city coming for "financial" reasons with naturally increase the supply of GARLIC!

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Review of ONLINE DATING sites in TORONTO

12/16/2011

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Okay, first of, I'd like to say that I agree with the sentiments of most guys in the city: Online Dating is a drag. It's not where its at. And more often than not, you do not get the quality you really want. However, I've been meaning to write this for quite some time and finally got around to it. I really wanted a positive post!

If you are doing OD in Toronto you are most likely using the following (although not necessarily exclusively) websites: Eharmony, POF, Lavalife.

These websites have the highest number of users. Other websites like cougarlife etc (specialized fetishes websites) tend to get less users and lower quality.

Of the three mentioned, I will try and give a breakdown.

Women in general prefer to talk about or think about where they met their man. So, for instance, if she met you at Shoppers Drug Mart, she is going to tell that story forever, if she met you at a club, she will probably just tell it to herself. Consequently, if a woman met you on eharm, she is more likely to tell that story rather than pof. Simply because the former is associated with long term relationships and the latter with sex. It does not matter that she herself is in both!

Now, eharm:

You get several matches a day (7-10). Photos matter, but try to put activity photos, have a nice write up (they actually read that there) and have a good name. If your name is AHMED or Nikolauiye (not sure if that's even a name), they will not click on it. Same goes with Sting (sounds made up). Do not go through the whole communication struggle (smile back and forth) but send a quick email to test the waters. She's either into you or she's not! Here you have more chances to talk about the book she's read etc. This site is for women. It's a heaven for them. It is designed with ONE goal in mind: getting a woman to marry someone ABOVE herself. There's some real sluts using this site as their last chance of success. So watch out.

When you go on a date from eharm, it is different than a date from other sites. Their subconsciousness is already telling them that they are there to meet "quality" relationship type dudes, so you are not going to close them. Use this site, if you can play it cool for a few dates. May take a month to reel ONE in, unless you have the time to work several at the same time. Problem with that is, they are there with their friends and will get pissed if you hit on their friends (regardless of whether or not you knew about it and regardless of the fact that she's probably communicating with several guys). You will not know which one her friends are. But they sign up at the same time and complete the same profile. So chances are you get them all as your matches. This way, they end up getting the same matches and compare notes. So be careful in this one. The cost is a turnoff too...$140 for 3 months!!!

POF: The fake profiles alone are enough reason not take this site seriously. But, despite the problems associated with it...here you can actually hide your profile. I would not highlight it, pay for it or change it often and edit it so it comes up at the top of searches (as many PUA's advise, I remember De Angelo put that in his book 10 years ago)! The same logic applies here. Rarely is a girl on there alone. In a city of cliques, you have the end result of online cliques. So be careful, sometimes a girl will send you a message to test you if you are faithful to her friend (regardless of the fact that you have not met yet). I know, insane right?!

Moreover, if you are hidden, you can really control who you talk to. Getting one email a day might be too little for you. But that one might convert into a date and a sure thing. Cause you really put in some thought and screened her well. You are being selective. Instead of getting you profile viewed by 1000 women and have a few meaningless emails back and forth that lead nowhere.
Try and use the advanced search to narrow down the type that you like and likes you back. There has to be an overlap, so figure that out first and message just those women. The message should be simple. My favorite. I read the news, and incorporate something from there in the email. I never exceed 4 sentences. Less is more. The information age also means, people want results quickly. Give it to them;)

LAVA: Clearly not what it used to be. But there is hope. All of the flakes from 10 years ago, are recircling, this time with kids, fortunately some still look hot. What to do? HIDE as always. Their hide feature is literally the best! Have a smoking hot photo of YOU. Dont show wealth or cars or your big house. If you really have wealth, for the love of god, your money is better spent on a hooker! What the hell are you doing messaging women past their prime!!!!
Read profiles as it might say they prefer emails to IM's.

If you are goodlooking, say something simple "I didnt catch your profession? Flight attendant?" Or "Are you that flight attendant? Of all the places in the world...." Sorry guys, I'm in flight attendant mood today.

If you are not goodlooking, open with an email questing something about them. Example "You really should not write such things on your page!"

This will at least give you a "what" or "wtf" answer. Up to you as to where you want to take it from there.

Try these tips to maximize results.
There is no golden rule. Call bullshit to anyone that says there is.

It's still better to meet girls in other venues in the city, than online (quality wise at least). However, if you are introverted or have no ACCESS (like most men) than you are stuck with online dating.

Last point. When on a date:

DO NOT (for the love of god) PAY under any circumstance more than your share. The only exception is when you've already decided to leave to another place and you can say something like "I'll get this one, you get the other place". Once there, regardless of how you feel, order more than you can handle cause its on her. WOMEN will not go for you unless they feel they've invested something. If the first place was $20 and you paid for it. Order $50 in the next place. She will pay cause it was pre-agreed upon. She will feel like she's invested in you and she will start asking more questions about you, even if you are not her 'type'!
Of course body language and smile goes without saying during the date. Do not agree to have coffee with her. Stop falling into the trap of "activity dates". You are not her friend. Most likely you just wanna bang this chick. Unless you are some loser who wants to get tied down in the city of Toronto with a bipolar girl!!!!

YOU ARE A MAN. You will invite her for a drink. Say " common out and tell me your life story so I can feint interest:P" or something like that. Smile but do not be overly interested in it. Make fun of GAME. Do not NEG! Do not show higher value of yourself. I usually start most of my dates, by making fun of myself. Making fun of my lack of any real life skills. I go as far as to say "I have a really small penis. Its almost invisible". (Reverse psychology here) Show you are so secure that nothing bothers you. You have a frame of steel. DO NOT WANT IT. WANT HER TO GET UP AND LEAVE! Do not be an asshole, but do not over compliment.
One day before you meet, slow down text game to effect. Keep it short and say you are going to a lot of house parties. You are having fun. She will not flake on you this way.

LASTLY, be a man, and if she's not into you, NEVER CONTACT HER AGAIN. There will be a 10% chance she might. If so, send back a text and say "WHO THE FUCK IS THIS!" I give it a 1% chance you will actually fuck this woman.

Hope this helps somehow bring up morale.

Yours Truly;)

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PROLOGUE

12/9/2011

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This is not a Eulogy about the city of Toronto. There are no funerals, death sentences or depositions. This does not make fun of the people or businesses of this city. Its intent is not to vilify the city’s culture. This is simply a study trying to understand the catastrophy of social scotophilia. I did not write this to change anyone’s mind. I do not want people to change their mind simply based on this. Make your own decisions, derived from your very own experiences. These are mine. This is not a study of which city is better or friendlier: I AM NOT COMPARING THE PLAYERS, I JUST DON’T LIKE THE GAME!

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POINT SYSTEM: Pathetic Toronto Dating and Social Culture.

12/9/2011

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One of the largest (by land and population) cities in North America and Business Capital of Canada, Toronto is a city where everyone plays by the rules and everyone is by default scared of everything they don’t know or have not been already exposed to.

By definition, people in this city are afraid of “strangers”, something imbedded in the original WASP Torontonian culture that has been exponentially increasing by the arrival of a majority of persecuted immigrants who have been in some way discriminated back home.

This further adds to the already pathetic, shy and insecure social culture already existing in Toronto years before the arrival of these immigrants.

The key problem with Toronto’s social catastrophy is the “social deadend”, which basically means: friends that you have gathered in the early years of your life up until your early 20’s are pretty much the only friends that you will associate with in the later years of your life with few exceptions.

This is as a result of a shyness and hesitation from lack of friendliness and acceptance of someone that you don’t already know. The city is POLITE, but completely UNFRIENDLY!

As a result, the average Torontonian is dependent on the people that he/she usually hangs out with for everything and does not know what to do when left alone.

Toronto is the capital of FACEBOOK as it hosts the largest number of FB users in the World. This is a direct result of the social unfriendliness of the city because its people turned to technology to communicate with the same people that they don’t have immediate access to, and make themselves feel better in a narcissistic way. Any ‘Like’ or a ‘Comment’ on their profile increases their happiness level. And instead of meeting someone new or just enjoying the day, they send 20 text messages a minute to any friend they have, hoping for a response which will make them feel less lonely and satisfy their social appetite while at the same time justifying not interacting with anyone new.

This culture is also fueled by the vast amount of diversity in the city. The illusion of Toronto being a diverse UTOPIA is quickly understood as soon as someone lives here for a few months.

Since there is no dominant ethnic majority other than the original WASP Torontonians and because of this anti-social culture pre-existent of the mass arrivals of a very diverse group of newcomers, all newcomers are forced to associate with people like themselves in order to satisfy their social appetite. Hence, the most popular question you get asked in this city is: “What is your background?”

Toronto, however, is a GREAT place to explore CAREER opportunities or if you are an employer and want to settle your BUSINESS. Because the majority of the city is made up of immigrants who have fled their motherland, they will turn their life upside down and put up with the day to day task of any job with few complaints.

This fact, mixed with the no eye-contact, unfriendly but POLITE culture in Toronto makes for a perfect CORPORATE environment.

Seeing this from an employers perspective, the employees come to work and do the job with few complaints, being extremely cautious of what they say (being POLITE), while at the same time, not making friends that would otherwise cause low productivity.

Adding to this, the employees are then dissatisfied because they have not fulfilled their social appetite. In order to make up for this, they spend money on things they don’t need, which is GREAT for companies and businesses selling those products and in turn add to the opportunities that can be explored in Toronto.

The fear of the “stranger” creates a perfect work environment. You are polite but you do not make friends. This limited POLITE interaction becomes a way to advertise (short-sell) yourself.

You do this in the best possible way, often times overcompensating for a mediocre career and an average life.

This creates a pretentious culture, that is HIGH even for a big city.

To compare, Torontonians are less likely to give you the time of day that New Yorkers even though they hold less desirable jobs and make less money.

In order to further define the Ethnic Composition:

The original Torontonian culture is closely associated with the OLD CONSERVATIVE BRITISH ROYAL culture. You are polite, do not make eye contact with strangers and do not get to know someone easily.

The other dominant group is ASIANS: they derive from an equally shy culture, further adding negative social dynamics to the city, they respect their elders (often times when they are wrong). In Asian culture, tradition is valued and the ELDERS opinion carries great weight. This further contributes to the already unfriendly Conservative culture already existing in the city.

All other groups, find themselves in a culture clash, because they see their values, such as friendship, friendliness in the workplace and open society and the freedom to say what is on your mind without being overly cautious, being destroyed. This furthermore contributes to the social dead end phenomena which is so common in this city.

DATING

The social catastrophe that is Toronto changes the Dating dynamics.

Meeting someone becomes harder because individuals are dependant on their immediate social circle to meet new people. The fear of strangers and the reluctance to get to know someone new, along with the vast diverse population of the city, who have to find someone like themselves due to religious, community and the most prevalent family pressure makes it even harder. To sum up: MOST PEOPLE STICK TO THEIR OWN.

This creates a perfect environment for online dating. Nowhere in North America is online dating more prevailing than in Toronto. It is the host city for Online Dating GURUS such as Plenty of Fish creator …. And Lavalife creator …… This is another example of Torontonians turning to technology to satisfy their social appetite.

In order to understand this phenomenon and to better understand the social dynamics of this city, we have to look at the most typical online dater:

The majority are obviously men who are unwilling to wait weeks, months or sometimes years for a woman to fall into their arms through their social networks, otherwise known as “conventional means” of dating.

The others are women similarly in the same situation. These women are often new to the city (and by “new”, they have been here for years and have not been able to to fit in and understand the social culture, hence being frustrated from this city).

Another dominant group are people of a non-white ethnic background. These are people refusing to accept their traditional community or family pressure or are having a hard time being accepted more openly through “conventional means”.

Lastly, the other significant dominant group is local women who have previously been a slave to the social stigma in Toronto and are frustrated with their life and relationship history. They are tired of having one way (the conventional way aforementioned) of meeting men.

These women are usually in their 30’s and 40’s and are frustrated with themselves for playing by “the rules” and being socially dependant to their immediate social circle. In other words, they realize that they have wasted their youth with men in sometimes very long relationships simply because it was socially acceptable to do so.

These women now do the opposite of what they have done before.

They are more open, aggressive and assertive when they see something they want. Often times this is a man 10 years younger than them. These women are trying to recapture their youth and unfortunately this is a growing group which is turning into the largest group of female online daters.

This explanation can be easily transferred to any other meeting environment such as a bar/club/coffee shop/park etc.

The women that are more open, confident, accepting and assertive, belong to this group. These women are done with their insecure ways and are trying to enjoy what is left of their dating life.

More and more women are falling into this group after years of accepting Toronto’s social norms. After years of neglecting being secure with themselves and going after what they want and after years of wasting time on relationships they were unhappy in, they are now doing that they want past their PRIME.

This group will only grow and Toronto will become a paradise for COUGARS or people dating in their mid 30’s, 40’s and possibly into their 50’s.

This growth will double because women belonging to ethnic minorities will have the economic freedom to refuse their family pressures and traditional norms.

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12/9/2011

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